This page gives you an idea of how Gentle Disruption helps you
and what we do.
F.A.Q.
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What is coaching?
Coaching as a way of asking you questions that enable you to
think deeper and wider about what you want to achieve and how
you could get there. The idea is that everyone of us has the
resources to achieve whatever they want and might just need to
find them. Coaching provides the help to find your resources and
a coach also acts as a companion on your journey to wherever you
want to go. This applies to individuals as well as groups, in
which the found resources can benefit the whole group and the
group dynamic might change to something more collaborative. The
term coaching is not protected and used widely with differing
meanings, i.e. some will ask leading questions, some will make
suggestions as well, some will only ask open questions and some
will be as non-leading as they possibly can. I belong into the
latter group and would class anything that is leading as
mentoring.
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What is Clean Language?
Clean Language is a method of asking questions that are as
assumption-free and non-leading as possible. The “Clean” bit is
that the questions by their design separate the coach’s
perception of the world from the client’s and thus leaves the
client free to come up with their very own way of doing things.
Clean Language was originally developed by a trauma therapist
David Grove based this method on two realisations: Firstly, he
compared transcripts of sessions from some very good therapists
and discovered patterns in what the clients of each therapists
was working on, suggesting that each therapist was
(unconsciously) leading their clients in a certain direction.
And, secondly, he observed that clients often used metaphors to
describe their traumas and that these metaphors could be used to
transform the client’s trauma into something therapeutic by
enabling the client to transform their metaphors.
Nowadays, Clean Language is used in a lot of different settings,
like coaching, teaching, business decision making, sales,
parenting etc.
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What can you help me with?
Question back: What do you want help with? What in your life,
work or organisation does not work and you want it to be
different? Or what is something you want to have happen (and it
is not happening (enough) yet)? Examples are, how to work (you
can insert learn, teach, manage, sell, parent, etc.) at your
best? And what needs to happen to be at your best more of the
time? How to achieve a certain goal or outcome you have in your
life; How to overcome a certain barrier in your life. These
examples apply to both individuals and group.
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What can you not do?
I cannot sort anything out for you, that means the change will
need to come from you and you are responsible for it. I also
cannot do therapy, i.e. if your problem is of traumatic or
psychological nature I have not got the qualifications to help
you. I will tell you, if I have the perception that this is what
is happening and advise you to seek out a therapist. In group
settings, I will not be able to help your organisation if the
management does not stand behind the coaching and is happy to
implement any changes that might come up. The way group coaching
works best is in a top-down approach.
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How long does coaching go on for?
Between 3 and 6 sessions going over a period of 3 weeks to 6
months depending on what is necessary as well as convenient.
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What happens if I am not happy with your work?
I am committed to tailoring my coaching to you and your needs.
If for any reason you are not happy with my work, you can
terminate our relationship, just give me a minimum of 24 hours
notice.
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What happens in between coaching sessions?
In order for what you have worked on in a session to get
embedded into everyday life, you will have a little
developmental task between each session. In most cases you will
choose something yourself, or we will discuss something
together. In group coaching especially, I might decide on
something for everyone to work on. These task work along the
line of what is the least thing you could do to get a bit closer
to your outcome.
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What happens after coaching?
What might happen to you, your problem or outcome is something I
cannot tell you because everyone and every situation is
different. However, it will be something positive. I will
contact you after a before-hand agreed time to check up on you
and ask for feedback. If you have anything to share with me, I
am always happy to hear about it.
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Put you in control
This starts from asking you how you want each
session/intervention to be, how you will be, over asking
assumption-free questions and using your or your team’s words,
to checking in whether you are still happy with what is
happening. It also means, I will rarely suggest what you should
do.
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Listen attentively
In a session you or your team get my full attention so that
everybody and everything has a chance to speak up and be heard.
That opens the way for them to show their true potential. It
also ties in with putting you in control because everything
your/your team say is treated with the respect it is due.
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Ask Clean Questions
The method I am working with is called Clean Language. It is
based on a set of questions that are as assumption-free as
possible and I will combine it with your or your team’s own
words. That way your or your group stays in control of what is
happening and it creates space for new thinking to emerge.
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Create space for your thoughts
Every time you say something, I will listen to it and ask a
question around it. This enables you to lay your thinking
processes out in space so you can have a better overview over
what is happening inside you. It helps you find new stuff or see
where the gaps are.
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Hold you to account
I take responsibility to make sure you or your team stay on
track to your chosen outcome or check in with you whether you
still want the same.
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Check on your progress
Coaching only makes sense if it leads to change. I will ask for
feedback regularly and after any intervention after a
before-hand agreed time to see whether my coaching was useful. |